Those of us who work with sexual addiction have a very rewarding job—I didn’t say it was easy! We are privileged to help men and women find freedom and hope. It is probably one of your reasons for doing what you do. One thing is for sure—We have job security. This addiction isn’t going to disappear anytime soon with all the triggers in society that set up a person to succumb to sexual urges and cravings.
Living in the moment
To live in the moment is critical to an addict’s recovery. There is the familiar slogan “one day at a time.” It means not dwelling on the past and not fearing about the future. When a sex addict focuses on just today, they are less likely to become overwhelmed with sadness about their past or to be anxious about what lies before them. They realize that they can only control what happens in the present day. When the addict learns to live in the moment, they begin to see what is important. They begin to discover life more in its beauty and wonder. They learn to focus and how to better manage their time and energy.
The practice of gratitude is such a powerful life skill. This practice is a great way to prevent the destructive aftermath of lustful living. Recovering addicts often manifest the attitude of gratitude because they know that when they are working on recovery, their life is real and transparent. Choosing to live in the moment with honesty and gratitude brings about a new freedom that enhances self-esteem and confidence. Most addicts remember what it was like to hate their impulses, their behaviors and themselves. While they know they are flawed, they can be grateful for the deep awareness of their value and worth.
[tweetthis]Recovering addicts often manifest an attitude of gratitude because their lives are now real and transparent.[/tweetthis]
Finding new meaning
There is third good that comes from recovery. Joseph Campbell spoke of it in terms of the “heroic journey.” By that he meant: there is a stage in recovery when the addict finds more than a curse in their addiction. Now, they see an immeasurable gift. They are no longer a victim but empowered by the lessons they have learned. I have heard addicts say:
- “I now know that life is precious and addiction is a thief”
- “I know what matters to me”
- “All things can work together for good with God”
- “I know that my wife is a gift!”
Addiction has taught many how to change their lives and live it more authentically! Recovery is a lifelong process of living and it helps us to find new meaning even in some of the most painful of circumstances. Yes, good can come from recovery—much good. It is really possible in recovery to live an awesome life—living in the moment, with gratitude, and finding new meaning.